Any singles out there? Not to worry, you are certainly not
alone. According to the United States Census Bureau, over 44 percent of all U.S
residents 18 and older are classified as single.
In a society where everything seems to revolve around finding
the love of your life and updating your relationship status, it can be
challenging to feel content in a season of singleness. But, let me reassure you
that it is possible. How do I know? Because I am living proof that even if
you've never been in a relationship, insurmountable hope, joy, and fulfillment
can be yours. It's all about a shift in your perspective. Here are five
keys to contentment during a season of singleness:
1.
Cultivate a heart of gratitude - Your praise and thanksgiving is a
powerful weapon. Instead of focusing on what you lack, remember and acknowledge
all that you have. By doing so, you can fight those feelings of discouragement
and give God the opportunity to remind you of His favor and many blessings. 1
Thessalonians 5:18 says, "Give thanks in all
circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.”
2. Invest in your family/friend
relationships -
Cherish every moment, conversation, and experience with the people you love.
Although they will always be a part of your life, relationship dynamics change
when that "special someone" enters your life. As a single, you have
the ability to dedicate your time and primary focus to nurturing these family/friend
relationships. I often reflect upon why I haven't been in a relationship, or
dated, for that matter. But the more I ponder this, the more I realize that the
moment I look beyond myself and my own personal gratification, my eyes are
opened to the many needs around me. Perhaps God needs me to be single right now
for the sake of being there for other individuals that can relate to my
relationship status. Whatever the case may be, remember those around you and
believe that God has placed you in their lives for such a distinct reason. As
you enjoy and embrace those around you, feelings of loneliness and sadness can
subside.
3. Maintain goals and high standards – One of
the biggest mistakes singles often make is waiting tirelessly and missing out
on the wonderful things this season has to offer. Regardless of your
relationships status, go after your goals, dreams, and God-given aspirations.
Do not wait! As you venture on this journey, God will simply insert that special
someone into your life. Don’t get caught up in the wrong relationships or
settle for second best out of desperation, but rather hold out for that
supernatural relationship that aligns with your standards. No compromises are
necessary. Believe that you deserve best.
4. Pray regularly and stay in the Word - Regardless of your emotional state, remember that prayer can not only
bring you peace, but it can also remind you of who is in control. We often take
this responsibility upon ourselves as though we have the capability to orchestrate
every tiny detail of our lives, especially when it comes meeting the one.
However, the truth of the matter is, God has asked us to surrender our plans to
him—trusting that He knows best. Instead of spending your time worrying, dive
into Scripture, allow God’s Word to replenish your soul, and pray fervently for
your future spouse.
5. Have faith – In a season of singleness, it is easy
to doubt God, especially when we can’t see the big picture. As you practice
patience, be encouraged and know that as you wait and seek God, he is working
behind the scenes and orchestrating your love story. He is shaping you and
maturing you into the man or woman He has called you to be. If God knit you
together in your mother’s womb, then He must know and understand you better than anyone
else. Do you trust him with your future? Do you believe he knows not only what
is best for you, but the timing in which it will all pan out?
